Here’s a thought. When we forgive, we do so by faith, extending grace to the one we forgive. What if we are the one seeking forgiveness? We, too, can extend grace to help bring reconciliation. The way I see it is that grace is only ever a free gift. In humility, we can give the gift or ourselves, with openness of heart and willingness to change, bridging the gap to make a way for forgiveness to flow.
Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift at the altar and go. First make things right with your brother or sister and then come back and offer your gift. (Matthew 5:23-24)
Grace and peace,